Responsible for one’s own feeling, needs and actions.

Makes clear observations, describes situations.

Practices empathy and forgiveness.

Makes requests

Asserts oneself

States preferences

Dialogues with

Inclusive

Without Judgement

Open to discover positive solutions

Power with others

Win/win

Blaming, accusing, judging, shaming, not owning personal responsibility

Adds perceptions as truth; evaluates, diagnosis, and labels

Holds resentment/complaints

Makes demands

Aggressive or passive

Shoulds & ought to

Monologue or silence

Exclusive

Right/wrong, good/bad

Attached to a certain outcome

Power over/power under

Win/lose

This chart offers what open-hearted and closed-hearted emotional being or communication creates or looks like.